Forgive =/= Forget

            FORGIVENESS. Big word, right? That's a word almost everyone knows but it has a lot of impact and a lot of POWER. Can you imagine how hard to ask for forgiveness is? or even just saying "Sorry"? But despite the hardness of saying sorry, it is actually harder to forgive. When I'm talking about forgiveness, I mean not those half-hearted temporary forgiveness, what I mean is the acceptance of what the others did wrong and of course, yourself.

             Then they are saying that it's easy to forgive. They also say that the best way to forgive is to forget. It might be the best, well for others' cases. They seem to forget the happenings that hurt them and that's it. Boom! They're like new once again and it's like nothing really happened. That's how easy life is, for them. But try to look at it in a different way. Isn't forgetting just an escape? It seems to me that you're just trying to escape the problem and not resolve it. It's just how I think about it though.

              But I have to admit, forgetting requires courage. The courage that is greater than asking for forgiveness.It is not that forgetting only takes a second, a minute, nor a week. It might be an escape, but it is not painless. One of the things that I don't like with forgetting is that, you just let the people who did wrong against you be free from their wrong doings. It's like that you let them go without making them realize that what they did was wrong. And what happens after that? You forget, they escape, they would do wrong again, and then you would forget. So what does that imply? If you forget, you would just escape TEMPORARILY. Things will start to haunt you down too. I am not saying that forgetting is really bad. It's just that it's not the best.

              Forgiving means you accept their repentance. You would make them repent for their sins. Forgetting means you would forget what they did wrong without them making an effort. Forgiving =/= Forgetting.